What is Life After School (going to be) like? Part 2

After the conversation I had with S in the previous blog post (you can read the conversation with S here if you missed it: https://link.medium.com/UTzNnYWy3Ab), I also had a chat with my friend, D.

D is a 23-year-old law graduate of The University of Lagos. With her undergraduate studies behind her, D is now entering a new phase of life filled with anticipation, uncertainties, and a mix of emotions. In our conversation, she shares her thoughts and reflections on how she feels as a graduate, shedding light on the unique challenges and possibilities that lie ahead. Now, let me share with you what we talked about and how she’s currently feeling during this time of transition.

Maybe, just maybe, you’ll find some relief and feel less pressured.

How did you feel when you wrote your final exam?

I know I was supposed to feel excited but to be honest I felt very anxious because I made a very costly mistake in an answer to a question. Definitely not how I wanted my last examination to end.

Did You Graduate with an After-School Plan?

Yes, I did but my plans depend on money. Money makes the world go round. lol

Do You Miss Being in the University ?

Absolutely not! It’s been a long time coming. If things were as it ought to be, I should have graduated two years ago.

Do you think there’s something you could have done better that would have made your life after school experience a more figured out one?

Yes. Looking back, I wish I had been bolder to join internships, attend debates, and take part in faculty programs. I didn’t think I was good enough, and I still have doubts about my abilities. But whether I like it or not, I have to find a job. I can’t help but wonder how I’ll cope. It’s a big challenge, but I know I have to face it and find ways to build my confidence along the way.

If you had the opportunity to now, would you grab it?

No, cos I still feel like I’m not up to it.

One thing being a student taught you that’ll stay with you long after graduation and help you navigate through the real world?

That roommates can be like hell on earth. I should tolerate others but I also have to speak up for myself when something affects me to the extent that I can’t cope with it.

Do you think that your life has just begun?

Not really. It will begin after law school.

How do you feel when people ask “what next after school?”

I don’t like it. I feel pressured to say something amazing and mind-blowing. Let me breathe please.

How do you feel generally?

Just there actually. The reality that I’m done with university has not really sunk in yet but I’m sure it will when I officially become a graduate. Until then, I’m just there.

Any Pressures?

Hmmm. I feel a lot of pressure coming from both my family and myself. At first, my parents wanted me to graduate with a good grade, a second-class upper degree. But now that I’ve gone through different stages of my studies, made some mistakes, and experienced ups and downs with my grades, I’m really anxious and hopeful that I can still achieve that second-class upper. It’s not just about me, but also about my family and the people who know me. It would be embarrassing to have to say, “I graduated with a second-class lower,” when someone asks about my degree. So, I’m feeling the weight of wanting to meet those expectations and prove myself. I feel like everyone is expecting better

Do you think your academic experience has prepared you for the professional world?

I don’t think my academic experience really prepared me for the professional world because it was mostly focused on theory and cramming. There wasn’t much practical application, especially in the field of law. I didn’t get to intern at a law firm or take part in programs that would have given me hands-on experience because I was scared and I thought I wasn’t good enough. Because of this, I feel unsure and worried about how I’ll manage when I actually start working. The transition seems overwhelming, and I’m not sure if I have the necessary skills and knowledge to handle the challenges that will come my way. I really do not know.

Do you intend to pursue a career in line with your course of study? If not, why?

After spending many years stating that I didn’t want to be a lawyer, I’ve had a change of heart. There are specific areas of law that now interest me, such as environmental law, criminal law, and human rights law. However, I feel particularly drawn to environmental law and have decided that I want to pursue a career in this field.

It’s completely normal to feel unsure and hesitant about taking opportunities, especially when you doubt your abilities. It’s okay to take your time and work on building your confidence. Remember that everyone has moments of self-doubt, and it doesn’t mean you are incapable. Take small steps and gradually push yourself outside your comfort zone. With time and effort, you might surprise yourself with what you can achieve. Be patient with yourself and remember that growth and improvement come with practice and experience. You can do it!